Question

Eseu la tema:Love is when the other person's happiness is more important than your own.
H. Jackson Brown, Jr.

Answer 1

Everyone seems to have a slightly different view of what love means to them. Some of that is cultural. Some of that is based on experience. And a lot is based on the different definitions or flavors of love. That said, there are some things which we can agree on as proper.There are also some fairly straight-forward things which are easily defined as not being proper. Jealousy is called out by the longer version of this quote, and is fairly universally recognized as something other than proper love. I agree, do you?We have seen countless movies where someone with a warped definition of the word love has played a role. The less fortunate among us may even have lived with such a person in their lives. How much nicer is it to live our lives in a world without such twisted definitions and twisted people?Let’s start with jealousy, as it is called out by the longer version of the quote. Think about the last time you were jealous. Let’s start with a situation where love should have been, but instead, jealousy was found. Think back to school, if you have to. Most of us have something in our past.Why did you feel jealous? Was someone else having fun, but you weren’t? The simple answer is that they obviously didn’t love you (based on the short version of the quote, your happiness being important to them), and that you would have been better off finding someone else who does. Being mad at them and sticking around for more abuse doesn’t make much sense, does it?What about a birthday party or some other gathering where others got an award or some attention and you did not? Were you jealous of them? Even of people you generally didn’t like? What does that say about how you defined love at the time, and how you valued them, their happiness and yourself?What other forms of twisted or damaged love exist? Stalking would be one form. What others can you think of, or have you experienced? Harassment or aggressive behavior would also qualify, right? How many of these experiences have you experienced, or participated in?How do you deal with feelings which run counter to a proper definition of love (according to you)? Let’s start with thinking for a moment about how you define love, and what you believe is contrary to that definition. Grab some paper and write down what your ideas on the subject are. Take a moment and add a few examples of both proper and improper love from your lifeNote that while this is a quote which is focused primarily on romantic love, it applies perfectly well to every other kind of love of which I can think. If you believe you have a counter-example, please leave it in the comments section, that I may give it consideration.Do you love your fellow human beings? What about your neighbors? Your friends and co-workers? Can you feel happy for them when they are happy? Can you take yourself out of the equation? Or do you have to be happy as well? I believe this is the opening that jealousy uses to invade our happiness.We all have wants and needs. We all desire happiness for ourselves, and for others. When the happiness of another is necessary for your happiness, you have love. When your happiness must come first, love becomes twisted and sick.It is my firm belief that proper love is a selfless act, and a selfless feeling. Anything less than that is not really love.  alege de aici ce iti place cel mai tare sper ca tiam fost de ajutor